Have you been frustrated with your actions lately? Do you seem to have a hard time getting hold of your emotions? Remember, your weaknesses and challenges do not define you. These struggles you are having stem partly from the disease of not being able to see the forest for the trees. You can’t look at the big picture, because you are down there on the ground. When you start to feel a strong emotion that threatens to overwhelm you, try taking on the role of the observer by rising above. For example, if something happens to make you angry, try just noticing and acknowledging that you are angry. Trying observing yourself in this emotion. Don’t judge, just notice your actions. By rising above your emotion in the role of the observer, you are starting to see yourself as God does. Seeing yourself through God’s eyes will give you the strength to remain calm and in control. When you can get “outside” of your emotions, you will have the perspective to make rational choices.

When you start practicing the role of the observer, change is not instantaneous. So go easy on yourself. These things take time!

Written by Tina Gasperson

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Jim Grey

Perrrrrrfect. I learned this trick about 5-6 years ago and it has saved my bacon many, many times. I’m a pretty emotional dude and the emotions were just steamrolling me over and over. Being able to step aside and observe keeps me from saying/doing things I’ll regret later!

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Jim Grey

Catching up on old comments. I went through something called dialectic behavior therapy that taught me a number of cognitive tools. I was going through a crushing divorce then after a traumatic end of marriage and was a right mess.

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