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Remembering Luke and Laura and a seedy motel

I’m looking forward to some cool air moving through my neck of the woods here in Florida over the next couple of day.  I’ve grown to love the warmer weather too, finally, after all these years (decades really) of being a Florida girl. I enjoy the feeling of the hot sun soaking into my skin;… Read more »

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The tension and messiness and beauty of self-acceptance

I feel a vulnerability hangover coming on and I haven’t even been vulnerable yet today. So what do you do when you share something highly personal (not private but personal because you created it) with someone very important to you and you don’t get the reaction you’d hoped for? What if your creation is a… Read more »

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A flying leap outside of comfort

I have learned that there are distinct benefits in doing things that scare me. I’m not talking about physical danger. I mean things that wipe out my sense of comfort and disrupt the status quo. Choosing to do things that scare me takes discernment. Is that legitimate fear I’m feeling, or is it the heavier… Read more »

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Does a “bit player” in your life hold sway over your emotions?

Since I began therapy in 2011, I’ve been able to be an observer in my own life. I can separate myself enough from whatever emotion I am feeling, to analyze my behavior and interpret it truthfully. I’ve learned that many of my troublesome behaviors come from some part of me trying to deal with my… Read more »

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How to lose weight at 52: the same way you write, silly

Here I am with another blank WordPress post page before me. When I write my blog posts in the morning, I’ve already written several hundred words for the book. This morning the words came faster and not only did I get 700 of them wrestled down, but I finished earlier than usual. It could be… Read more »

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I really was there and it really happened

Yesterday I had a cool memory verification moment. I kept seeing on Facebook that it was the 37th anniversary of the band Lynyrd Skynyrd’s plane crash, the one that killed the lead singer Ronnie Van Zant and vocalist/guitarist Steve Gaines. I remembered and had related many times that I saw the band just a few… Read more »

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Take away and taking it all back

This morning our regularly scheduled memoir update is brought to you by our sponsor, Crappy Customer Service Updates. Have you ever had a customer service experience that left you feeling like they couldn’t care less about having you as a customer? Yeah, that just happened to me with Focus@Will. I had a small issue that… Read more »

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Little Farrah Fawcett-haired me

I’m easily distractible but about a year ago I found a service called Focus@Will that streams background music specially engineered to help creatives and others focus on the task at hand. You can tweak the music settings and choose your favorite genre or switch back and forth. I am a fan of the Ambient music collection… Read more »

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This blog post is not perfect

I’ve been re-reading Bird by Bird, Anne Lamott’s writing memoir. I could quote entire chapters here and just leave it at that. She expresses all my angst and hope with languid humor that makes me laugh aloud as I am reading. I kept her words with me throughout my week at Melbourne Beach, letting her honesty… Read more »

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Imperfection is more graceful

The scar forms over the wound and the body is imperfect even though it is healed. The perfectionist/idealist in me doesn’t like the realization that just because I am healed, it doesn’t mean I am perfect. It’s sad news to grasp: I will still struggle sometimes. I will still fail. I will still feel pain…. Read more »