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Embracing the girl I left behind

I’ve left behind so much in my past; sometimes that’s a good thing. But I’ve left behind versions of myself, little “me’s” scattered behind me, abandoned in favor of something more perfect. My perfection mentality judged that these unacceptable me’s needed to stay back there, hopefully disappearing into the mists of the past. I never… Read more »

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Writer’s block is really just pain avoidance

I was chatting with my sixteen year old daughter Mackenzie last night about writer’s block. She’s a prolific writer and I’ve encouraged her all along to write every day. I’ve told her not to neglect the gift; that it could have a negative impact on her well-being if she let too many days go by… Read more »

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Is unconditional love the antidote to shame?

If our parents don’t bond with us as children, we grow up feeling ashamed of our existence. Shame becomes our default state and we probably don’t realize that’s not healthy or normal. As we grow, we just know something is not right. Shame is the deep seated belief that “I am a bad person.” Researcher… Read more »

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Braiding my chapters

My writing coach suggested I structure the memoir in braided chapters – one chapter from the past, the next chapter from closer to the present, and so forth. I was glad for the scaffolding to help the words flow. That was the intent, and it worked. But there has been an additional benefit to having… Read more »

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The art of not looking at my feet

Present tense and past tense. Not in the usual way. My memoir chapters right now are a sort of braid, weaving together the past and the present. The odd numbered chapters are more recent: from 2008 on. The even numbered chapters delve into the past. There are parallels of experience and story arc emerging in… Read more »