Being yourself is one of the best ways to honor God. He made you on purpose. If you reject your individuality by comparing yourself to others or trying to be like someone else, you are throwing the gift God has given you back in His face. But if you’ve been rejected, or made to feel like you aren’t worthy of love and appreciation, or that you are inappropriate, inconvenient, or insignificant, you might truly believe that the real you isn’t good enough and deserves to be hidden or even discarded. So it is not your fault. But you can start today to recover that treasure inside – the treasure of you. Here are four ways to begin that process.
Ask God to show you. He would love to tell you about his amazing creation. Spend some regular time in meditation. Begin your quiet time by asking God to be there with you and for Him to help you understand the qualities and desires with which he made you.
Journal. Yes, write. Every day if you can. There is something about the action of putting the words down either on paper or the screen that opens a doorway to your soul. You will discover things about yourself that you may not if you are only thinking thoughts in your head. About three hand written pages or 750 typed words is a good place to start.If you like to write with the computer, try 750words.com. Write from your heart, not your head. Start, and don’t stop until you’re done. It might sound like gibberish sometimes, but you will find hidden gems that are clues to the real you.
Read, watch, listen. Select uplifting materials like Scripture and transformational self-help books, inspiring memoirs, poetry, and classic fiction. Good movies with a positive theme. Brilliantly composed music, songs about the goodness of God. Start eliminating, at least temporarily, negative or darkly themed entertainment from your life. Make room for the happy news about who you are.
Practice living in the moment. This is a good thing to do always, and when you’re trying to figure out who you are, it really helps to be present. My false ideas about myself were always rooted in shame from the past and worries about the future, whether that future is in 5 minutes, 5 years, or longer. If you can discard all moments but this one, breathe, and relax, I feel confident that you can begin to see yourself in a new light.