I got to help some beautiful women get unstuck. It was just yesterday.

It wasn’t a vehicle in a ditch. Their hearts were stuck.

It took me having the courage to be vulnerable with them and admit that I put on masks to show the world what I want it to see, too.

I am afraid to take down that mask and be the real me, wrinkles and tears and stumbles and worry.

It took me being willing to look like a fool in order to lead them down the path of healing.

I wanted to play it safe, you see. I didn’t want to stand up and expose my personal inadequacies, my old shame. My preferred mask is one of competence and strength. I don’t really want to take it off and show the real me because then you might not take me seriously.

Ephesians 4:25: Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.

But God whispered: trust me and do it for them.

Do it for the one who needs it, the one looking to you for leadership. They’re not looking at you to show them an example of someone who has it all together – someone who wakes up happy every day – someone who does everything right – how is that inspiring? That’s not inspiring, that’s intimidating and shaming. That’s a persona designed to inflate your ego at their expense.

And it’s a lie.

They’re looking at me to show them an example of someone who has been broken but courageously perseveres. Someone who relies on God’s grace through every moment. So humble yourself and be real.

I tried to talk myself out of it right up to the last second. Take the safe route. Stick to the basics. But love wouldn’t let me do that. Finally I took a big breath and dove into the deep end of leadership.

Because leadership is really about coming alongside. Come with me, I’ve been here before and I know what’s around that curve in the road. Let’s walk together in imperfection and grace. I’m here for you.

Let’s get unstuck.


Written by Tina Gasperson

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